- 1/4 cup vegan margarine
- 8 ounces vegan chocolate chips
- 2 tbsp rice flour
- 1/2 cup agave syrup
- 1/2 teaspoon vanilla
- 2 tbsp soy milk
Category Archives: Self & Life
I am long overdue for a blog post. (Unless blog posts mature at the same rate as fetuses. In that case, I’m early.) So I dug this out of my writing folder. I hope you enjoy it.
I posted on Facebook that, after a long walk, I couldn’t take the heat anymore, so I stripped down to my skivvies and took a swim. The first few comments were from gal pals—about how lovely that sounded, and such—and then a guy commented.
“You be careful, now!” he said.
I had to ask myself, is my likelihood of wildlife encounter sizably increased by the act of swimming? I think not. Does he have any reason to assume I can’t swim? No. I had a sinking suspicion I knew what he meant…
I replied that I knew how to swim and tried to leave it at that, but it bothered me all evening: Be careful of what?
Let me ask you something, no-doubt-well-meaning-commenter-who-shall-remain-unnamed, if a guy friend of yours posted the same thing (that he was hot on his walk so he stripped to his boxers and dove into the lake; and let’s assume that you have no alligators or flesh eating bacteria or whatever in your water supply), is your first response going to be, “Be careful”?
Now, I could be wrong; I’m not a guy, but I’m thinking if that was your response, guy-friend would be like, “Dude, seriously? What are you, my wet nurse? Afraid I’m gonna drown?”
I don’t think Dude was worried about me drowning, though. I think he was worried that if I took my jeans off I might slip and fall on a rapist.
I have three things to say to that:
1. As a human being, I have a basic inalienable right to feel safe.
This does not change when I take my clothes off. So when you hear that I’ve enjoyed the way the cool water touches my (bathing suit-clad, underwear-clad, or skyclad) body, appropriate responses include variations on “Yay! Or, “How wonderful that there’s somewhere where a woman can feel safe to walk and swim alone.”
“Be careful” is NOT an appropriate response because…
2. I don’t have a penis. Ergo, worrying about penises is not my job.
You seem to be suggesting that, if I’m out for a walk and I’m hot and there’s a lake, and I want to go for a swim, I should stop myself by thinking, “Well, no, I can’t, because I don’t want to be raped.” EXCUSE ME? You have that backward. Try this instead: A guy is out for a walk and he sees a woman swimming in her underwear in a lake and has in impulse to involve her with his penis. HE IS SUPPOSED TO STOP HIMSELF BY THINKING, “WELL, NO, I CAN’T, BECAUSE I DO NOT HAVE HER CONSENT!”
Simple, right? Everyone responsible for their own genitalia. I think so.
So next time you feel compelled to suggest that I moderate my behavior/dress based on the idea that I can control (and am therefore responsible for) a rapist’s behavior, don’t. Just don’t.
And by the way…
3. Statistically, if I don’t want to slip and fall on a rapist, you know when I should be careful?
When I’m alone in a room with a man I trust. That would be you, mister. YOU be careful.
The “Self & Life” section of my blog has been sadly neglected. So begins my attempt to remedy that. (I do have a life outside of writing, really.)
Today’s share: a photo/recipe journal of my at-home dairy-free, egg-free and gluten-free fondue feast (that’s a lot of “free”s). Fondue has always been one of my favorite foods (food types? food groups?). Since I stopped eating dairy and gluten, I’ve felt fondu-deprived. No More! My brother gave me a fondue pot for Christmas, and presto! excellent motivation to get creative.
The feast, as it happened–
Ingredients were laid out…
Course 1: Vegan, GF cheese + bread
I discovered Daiya vegan cheese at Pala pizzeria in NYC–they also have gluten-free pizza, go check them out, but I digress. I was ecstatic to realize my local health food store carries their products. This stuff melts and shreds and tastes quite a lot like “the real thing.” (And, no, I am not affiliated with Daiya in any way, and this is not an ad.)
Likelihood of enjoyment by people who eat everything? Not very high. Stick with the conventional version.
For the cheese fondue, I combined this recipe from the Daiya site for “Cheesey Fondue” with this one for conventional cheese fondue from Simply Recipes.
1. Split a clove of garlic and rub all over the inside of a small saucepan.
2. Bring 1/2 cup white wine to a boil, lowered heat.
3. Mix in 1 package, or a bit more, of Daiya mozzarella-style shreds, and cook on low-heat until melted.
4. While cooking, stir in 1 tbs of rice flour. Add: Braggs liquid aminos, lemon juice, onion powder, and garlic powder (to taste).
5. Transfer to double boiler insert of fondue pot.
6. Eat! Dip cubes of bread (I used Gluten-free, vegan rolls from the supermarket), cool for a few seconds, and enjoy.
Course 2: Free-range Bison + veggies in olive oil
Bison is my favorite meat. Feel free to substitute yours (my mom had beef). I used this recipe from Lidner Bison (to find it, scroll down on their site). It’s really simple: meat + enough olive oil to just cover it. Note: don’t use the double-boiler insert for this one. When it came to the sauce, I didn’t have all the ingredients, so I did this:
Tangy dipping sauce:
1/2 cup vegan mayo
1 tbs catsup
1 clove garlic, minced
It was delicious.
Layla-approved? Heck, yeah!
Vegan/vegetarian? Use veggies, and tofu or tempe (maybe spice up your oil a bit)
Course 3: Vegan Chocolate!
Doesn’t that look good? I adapted this recipe from About.com.
Prep: Melt chips, butter, and milk in a double boiler. Once melted, add other ingredients. Transfer to double-boiler insert of fondue pot. Enjoy with fruit.
Layla-approved? Total win. This tasted exactly like the one I used to get at my favorite fondue restaurant!
Likelihood of enjoyment by people who eat everything? 99.9% (see last question)
That’s it. I hope your enjoyed .
If you try any of these, please stop by and let me know how they turn out.
My writing goal for May 9-15 was “just keep working.” This I did and it was sort of a plod-along week. I even plodded up a hill to visit this lake.
Pretty, huh? My last week’s writing summary isn’t nearly as enthralling, but here it is.
Monday: 2 hrs organizing draft & notes, editing
Tuesday: 2:20 hrs editing Book 2, part 1 (I want these events to work before I move on)
Wednesday: 3 hrs editing & agent research
Thursday: 2:30 hrs editing + 0:30 agent research = 3 hrs.
Friday: 2:15 hrs book 2
Saturday: 0:45 hrs
= 13:20 hrs
Since I did not quite put in my 15 hour minimum, that will be my goal for this week.
Goal May 16-22, 2011: Keep working, for at least 15 hours
None of that is particularly exciting (except maybe the lake), so how about a few more tidbits from last week?
Tidbit 1: A quote I read and loved
”The creative life…is the love of something, having so much love for something–whether a person, a word, an image, an idea, the land, or humanity–that all that can be done with the overflow is to create. It is not a matter of wanting to, not a singular act of will; one solely must.” – Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Women Who Run With the Wolves
Tidbit 2: My current read is
The Iron Thorn by Caitlin Kittredge
Tidbit 3: As mentioned above, I took a hike to Grassi Lakes. My hiking companion was…
Isn’t he cute? (You know, of course, that there is only one correct answer to this question.)
See you next Monday!